Look I get it, I’m also an introverted guy. Although I am no longer searching for a girlfriend, I can however tell you it is 100% possible to find one. I certainly did, 20 years ago, she’s an extrovert and we’ve been together since! So don’t put negative sh*t in your mind, I know it’s doable, stop worrying and get to work 🙂
Did you get that?… In case you missed it, I said “get to work”. If there is ONE thing I want you to take away from this post, is that you MUST TAKE ACTION. You must get out there, go online, or take a stroll to your local library, and meet people! You can get ALL the tips in the world, but unless you actually apply them, you won’t accomplish anything. And unless you start meeting and interacting with more people, you won’t find a girlfriend.
Does that make sense?
Our World Got Turned Upside Down With COVID-19!
If you are an introvert, it might seem impossible to find a girlfriend at the best of times. With COVID-19 turning everything upside down, it has been both an advantage and disadvantage for us introverts. The idea of reducing interactions is wonderful, but mostly for those who already have a partner. But for those introverted guys who are lonely and would love to have a girl by their side, it’s been difficult, to say the least.
As a result, you might be wondering whether or not finding a girlfriend is even possible for an introverted personality. The short answer is “OF COURSE IT IS!”. Just keep in mind that for us, introverts, it will take a bit of effort to find. And that’s a good thing! You want to take your time and find the right girl for you.
Now, let me give you some ideas on things you can do as an introvert to find a girlfriend.
Can an Introvert Get a Girlfriend?
Let’s start with the basics.
Yes, an introvert can absolutely get a girlfriend, I told you, I did… twenty years ago, but not much has changed. If anything, it has gotten much easier these days with the internet and smartphones! You literally have an endless amount of places online you can meet great girls with which you can start conversations.
Keep this in mind…
While researching this topic, I found some studies showing that over 50% of the population in the US are introverts. Other studies I found said somewhere between 30 and 40%. And yet other stats showed 20 to 25%. REGARDLESS, the point is there a sh*t ton of us and you are NOT the only one. The odds my friend, are in your favor.
It’s more about your approach, mindset, and willingness to take the appropriate steps to find the woman of your dreams.
There are millions of introverts around the world that are leading happy love lives (including me) without faking their personality. I would say that a lot of it has to do with focusing on (and leveraging) your strengths, being yourself, and just going from there. As long as you do this, you are going to find a girlfriend quickly.
Now that we’ve established that introvert guys can certainly get a girlfriend, let’s get into the practical side here.
Where Can Introverts Meet Girls
1. Online Dating
This is the most powerful option available for introverted personalities.
The idea of being able to connect without thousands of women through an online website and/or app is intriguing. It’s an opportunity to build a bond with the right woman without having to leave the comfort of your home.
This is much easier than trying to do it in an external environment where the process isn’t as controlled. Of course, you will eventually have to meet these women in person, but it won’t be a challenging conversation once you’re sitting in front of her.
Online dating tends to get the boring stuff out of the way quickly.
Of course, keeping this in mind, you are going to have to present yourself in the right manner. This means using a good variety of photos, being respectful, and not lying about things. All of these can become a major hindrance when it is time to find a girlfriend.
However, those who do work on their dating profile online and speak to different women will find the right one quickly. It’s just about perseverance and ensuring you are on the most popular dating apps. This is how you are going to find a gem that connects with you at a deeper level.
2. Hobby-Based Activities and/or Events
This is another fascinating way of finding a girlfriend as an introvert.
In this case, you are going to find a hobby that interests you. For example, perhaps you are an introvert that doesn’t mind hiking from time to time through gorgeous places around town. If so, why not join a meetup group that is hiking nearby?
You can use this as a launching pad to meet people without feeling overwhelmed by the interaction. Instead, you get the opportunity to speak to them in a comfortable setting that’s in tune with your likes. Plus, who doesn’t like meeting people that love the same things as them?!
This is why a hobby-based activity and/or event can go a long way in finding a girlfriend. You tend to have a much better chance of connecting with a person when both of you like the same things. It is those similarities that can lead to interesting conversations.
Even if it’s not something you love, introverts are always recommended to find new hobbies that interest them. It’s just about trying to find ways where you are going to get a chance to interact with women without the pressure of dating right away.
This will allow you to build the relationship and eventually seal the deal. In a lot of cases, this is ideal for introverts that want to take things slowly while finding a girlfriend.
Are you someone that will head to the gym multiple times during the week?
During COVID-19, this might seem like a challenging proposition especially if your gym is closed. However, you should take up the opportunity if the gym does open up.
It’s a good way to meet people that are willing to work on their fitness just like yourself. For those who don’t go to the gym, it’s okay to consider other options such as yoga classes.
Yoga classes are full of women because that is the target market for these types of classes. As a result, you are going to be one of the few men that are present at these classes allowing you to speak to multiple women and see whether or not they click with your likes.
As an introvert, you should take advantage of these settings because it’s a lot easier to learn something new (i.e. yoga poses) while also improving your interactions with women.
4. Library And/Or Join A Book Club
Libraries and/or bookstores have always been noted as a good spot for men to find girlfriends and a great place to make friends. Yes, it is going to take time and you will have to get the girl’s number, but it is a wonderful starting spot especially if you love reading. You know right off the bat that you both have something in common!
Introverts that enjoy spending time in these spots should be looking for avid readers. Why not connect with someone over a book?
In fact, you can take it a step further and join an online book club. The online book club will allow you to interact with different people while getting to read great books at the same time. It’s a real win-win and makes the most of your time.
A lot of introverts don’t like the idea of solely focusing on finding a girlfriend. You don’t want to “waste” your time and see limited results. This is why having a secondary activity going on in the background whether it’s a gym session, book club meeting, or yoga session can ease you into the process.
5. Language Classes
This is a unique idea and one that seems to work well for introverts. The concept of a language class is to learn with others that are going through the same challenges as you while learning a new language.
Plus, it is a great skill to pick up that could be useful down the road!
For example, perhaps you want to learn a bit of Spanish or French? If so, why not take the time to join a class that has other members in it? This could be a wonderful way to learn a new language, meet women, and connect with them on this basis.
It’s a charming way to show that you are willing to learn, which is always a great sign in wooing women. You are going to be more impressive by doing this and it’s going to add to your overall personality.
Is There a Dating Site for Introverts?
The best part about living in this day and age has to do with the number of online dating options. You are going to have more than enough opportunities to meet as many women as possible while getting to swipe through them online using a website or app.
A good example of these sites/apps would be:
* Plenty of Fish
* Coffee Meets Bagel
* And More!
These dating sites/apps are wonderful and will provide a great launching pad for your search. It’s essential to create a well-rounded profile on these apps and take your time. This is how you are going to find different women and eventually meet with them in person.
Finding a girlfriend is all about knowing what you like while also putting yourself in the best possible situation.
With these dating sites/apps, you are going to have multiple chances to find a girlfriend. Just make sure you reply on time and maintain a respectful conversation.
Over time, you are going to learn what’s required to win them over and that’s when things will fall into place. Being an introvert doesn’t have to hinder you when it comes to these sites. If you are willing to put in the work, you are going to see results!
Start with 1-2 of these apps and see how things go. You will realize it’s just about maintaining a good conversation, learning more about the other person, and finding someone that clicks with your likes/dislikes.
In the end, being introverted is not a disadvantage and it’s not something to feel bad about. It’s just another way of approaching life, which means you are going to have to make adjustments to how you approach the world of dating.
Dating is just as enjoyable for an introvert as it is for an extrovert. The goal is to put yourself in the right places and going from there.
You will be surprised as to how quickly you can find a girlfriend when you follow the steps listed above. Get started right away and watch as your life changes.