How to deal with introverts in a relationship

Being in a relationship and maintaining one is hard enough.

One of the paradigms, sometimes taken for granted, that can impact on a relationship is the personality traits of introversion and extroversion.

The old adage that opposites attract might be true in many aspects but does it hold true when there are opposites of personality traits in a relationship?

Having met your introvert, there are attractions that drew you in in the first place.  Maybe it was his or her vulnerability and innocent charm. The fact is you fell for it and you are now head over heels.

How To Love An Introvert

Being an introvert sometimes means that they like their own company. That doesn’t mean they dislike yours.

Don’t take the fact that they might want to spend some time alone personally. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Recognize and accept the fact that introverts need to be alone at times is good for their own health and happiness.

It just means what it says on the tin, they want time on their own.

If you are an extrovert in a relationship with an introvert you might find it annoying at times that they don’t interact like you, or have loads of friends. Don’t misunderstand this though, it doesn’t mean they don’t like your friends or other people.

They don’t get as energized by other people as extroverts do and it takes them a little time to warm up to someone.

Don’t try to fix them. Accept that they are different from you.

One of the things about introverts is that when they are embedded in a relationship, they are fiercely loyal. When they love someone they do so wholeheartedly.

Celebrate that fact in your relationship and be accepting around your introvert partners wishes.

How to love an introvert
How to love an introvert

How To Make An Introvert Fall In Love

So you have seen this very attractive girl/guy at a party, but they seem aloof and hanging back from the crowd.

You can see there is something about them and when you finally get talking to them they have something worthwhile to say, they are funny, intelligent and charming.

You go on a couple of more dates, your head is buzzing, you really like them but they still seem slightly less enthusiastic than you.

Here are some tips to help you get that gorgeous introvert to land at your feet.

One of the great skills of an introvert is listening and you have to adopt it too.

Introverts are word economists, they put a lot of work into what they say, so will really appreciate it if you really listen. So avoid interrupting them, finishing their sentences and leave a pause before you answer.

Nothing disturbs and introverts psyche and will put them off you is neediness! Don’t be too needy. You will threaten the introvert’s independence. If you want to make an introvert fall in love with you, show them you have your own hobbies, friends, and passions for things.

Patience is also a virtue you need when trying to woo an introvert. Don’t be too pushy, your potential introvert conquest will run a mile. An introvert will fall in love with more quickly if you allow them the time to open up when they are ready.

One of the key features an introvert will look for in you as a potential lover is loyalty. Loyalty is so important to an introvert.

Don’t forget introverts are super selective in whom they let get close to them, so they expect their friends and companions to be loyal.

Finally, take it slow and be comfortable with silences, there may be a few if you are with an introvert.

How To Find Love As An Introvert

One of the common mistakes an introvert makes when looking for love is to not stay true to themselves and who they are.

It is quite common for an introvert to pretend they are more extrovert than they really are because they believe that will make them more successful when it comes to love.

So the first thing is, stay true to yourself. Sow what if you are unfairly labeled as aloof, nerdy and shy (all common stereotypes of an introvert).

If someone is really interested in you they will take their time to get to know you and peel back your layers to tap into your real self.

Don’t play extrovert just to fit in.

Also, don’t dismiss extroverts as potential partners.

The introvert-extrovert pairing can make a great complimentary pairing.

As long as they get to understand your need for your time, and that you can be deep sometimes, an extrovert can make a great partner.

How To Know An Introvert Is In Love With You

One telltale sign that your introvert partner has fallen for you hook, line and sinker is by showing their vulnerability to you.

They will speak to you about what really is in their hearts.

Why they feel what they feel, why they are happy, distressed or what their goals and aspirations are.

The day an introvert really opens up to you, you can bet they have fallen for you.

When an introvert falls in love they fall in love HARD!

Another sign is that they will come outside their comfort zone for you. Whether that be trying new activities, meeting your friends.

They will sacrifice their quiet time, their time for being alone to being with you and joining in the things that you like.

You will also find an introvert in love with you will want to discover the real you.

They will dig deeper to understand your dreams, aspirations, passions, and desires. The more they start to trust you the talking will become more deep and serious.

Don’t forget it is not easy for an introvert to let their guard down because of being hurt.

Finally, an introvert will show you they love you not always by words, ( don’t forget they are not great wordsmiths) but by actions.

They will carry out little acts to show you how much they care about you, they like to make sure you are happy.

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